Are we a fit?
What you can expect when you work with me
There are as many types of coaches and helping professionals as there are types of people and so it’s important that you find someone you resonate with. The following can help you in the process of finding the right coaching fit for you.
These are some attributes about me and what I offer that may help you determine if you want to have that first session:
- Safety. There is no healing, recovery, or change if a person does not feel safe. A brain and nervous system that is in a high-state of arousal (alert, vigilant, anxious) won’t have the resources to problem solve and rewire/create healthy neuropathways.
- Support AND challenge. I’ve learned through my training that those who are interested in personal growth and development, should look for relationships, therapists, counselors and coaches that offer support and challenge. Too much of one can keep a person stuck; too much support enables and helps people stay asleep and too much challenge makes people feel defeated and and cause them to shut down.
- Collaboration. Coaching is a collaborative process, it is a relationship and an intimate one at that. Like most things, there is a correlation between what we put in and what we get out. Both the client and the coach are expected to participate and do their part.
- A “radical” or root approach. The word radical is Latin for “grasping something at the root.” Most of our issues are symptoms of something systemic/deeper/unconscious. And through the coaching process we can discover the why, therefore finding more holistic and sustainable solutions.
- Cultural lens. While I like to talk with people about their family and personal history, it is not in a vacuum. So much of our mental health status is influenced (“conditioned”) by the culture we grew up in. It is the water we swim in. If it’s toxic, we need to see how that has affected us and build resistance and resilience to what might be undermining our health.
- Ally and advocate. Anyone who knows me knows that I have a heart for advocacy, which means I focus heavily on not only empowering others, but teaching others how to empower themselves.
- Someone who is constantly working on her own issues. I am always learning and growing myself. I know I have blind spots and am interested in what those are, so I surround myself with honest, loving people who support and challenge me and seek out tools and support to help me improve.
- A sense of humor and lightheartedness. There is a lot of hard stuff in life, and it’s important to remember the good stuff too, and humor is an access point for it and often a healthy and appropriate way to discharge tension.
- Emotional literacy. Through both natural proclivities and a lot of my own work on myself, I’m able to explore, accept and express my own emotions, which means I have the capacity to explore and accept your emotions and help you learn how to express them in healthy ways.
Attributes I look for in a client, someone who:
- Wants to do it differently
- Is looking to develop self-awareness
- Is looking to develop emotional literacy (if lacking)
- Wants to look at root causes of thoughts, feelings and behavior
- Is interested in personal growth and development
- Values relationship (even if you feel you’re not good at it)
- Wants to be challenged as well as supported
- Is open to exploring their cultural conditioning (external influences on thoughts, feelings and behaviors)
- Does not want to rely on blame as a coping mechanism
- Wants to find and use healthy coping skills
- Is willing to put in the time and effort necessary to improve their life
- Wants to be empowered and learn to self advocate
- Wants authenticity in their life
- Is open to psychoeducation about their symptoms and the treatments/interventions